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Well, here's Parvej. He wrote to us saying he is about to get married to a girl chosen by his parents...(read arranged marriage). Parvej says that the girl chosen by his parents is good but not as beautiful as he would like his 'to be bride' to be.
Well, here's the groom to be in his own words :
Sender's Name : Parvej
Sender's Email : [hidden]
Referrer : http://loveladder.blogspot.com/2009/05/contact-me_01.html
"I have some confusion while choosing life partner, My parents has found one life partner for me, but i have some confusion to select her. Actually her behaviour is good, she is well educated and everything is good but she is not pretty (not beautifull) that is the reason confusing me to select life partner. My parents like her very much. but my only problem is she is not beautiful. so plz suggest me to take a decsion.
So, I am expecting your suggesion on that.. please reply me.. it is very important for me..."
So that was Parvej. Apparently, he means to say that his bride needs to be good looking over good manners and behaviour. So now the age old million dollar question to answer is this ---> what is better - Good looks + good/bad behaviour OR Decent average looks but good manners/behaviour ?? That really is a toughie.
Love ladder speak:
Thank you for writing in. we appreciate it. Kindly let others know about us.
Ok now, we know your query and we understand the confusion you face.
Here's a fact first:
Nobody is beautiful to everybody. By the same logic, nobody is ugly to everybody either. In other words - everybody is average, in terms of statistics. :)
Beauty is not just one thing but a combination of heart, head, brains, nature, behaviour, words and lastly skin. A wise guy about to get married would choose everything in that list. Why do you want to choose only one (skin)? Be a wise man and choose all. It's your life ka sawaal.
Make a positive approach to the girl chosen by your parents and ask her the questions on how she would deal with things in your and her daily life on daily average things. Make your judgement by the answers she gives and you will know.
Don't forget to send us the wedding invite. ;->
Best of luck.
Calling all Love Gurus - what's your say? Parvej is asking for your advices and suggestions. He seems confused on the choice of his life partner. Go ahead, tell him how it should be. Let's help him make this crucial decision on the marriage rung of the ladder of his life. Over to you dear readers. :-)